I have no trouble in admitting that I am my own worst enemy. Being too hard on myself is one of the things I do best.
I get asked a lot how I manage to get through difficult patches and advice on how to cope with when things are just a little too much. I have to say that sadly I am one of those people who can give all the advice in the world but never seem able to take my own. It’s that rock and a hard place where my depression convinces me that I don’t deserve my own advice and something I struggle with daily.
I’ve got a lot better since adopting the thought process of “What would I say to a friend who felt like this?”.
Something I have learned in recent years is that beating yourself up for feeling the way we do creates nothing but a horrible cycle. No, sometimes we can’t just snap out of it – but that’s OK.
The secret weapon in fighting these feelings is forgiving yourself for feeling them in the first place.
You’re allowed to feel the way you do. You’re allowed to not be able to snap out of it. And you’re allowed to pause before you feel like you can deal with it.
Being kind to yourself isn’t something that comes naturally to me. I have to really force myself to listen to my own advice and tell myself that it’s OK to not be able to cope sometimes. Remember that right now you are doing all you can and that means you’re doing the right thing in taking this very important step in the healing process, even if it doesn’t seem like a step at all.
No matter how hard it is, look after yourself and forgive yourself.